Nairobi bride arrives late to wedding, stuns church with confession
Taking one of the biggest steps in your life is daunting enough. For a wedding, all the attention is on the day you walk down the aisle.
Because a wedding should be the best day of your life, it comes with the stress of detailed planning.
You wonder if your dress or your suit is ready or if your partner will say “yes”, or if someone will oppose your union.
You are concerned that the DJ is playing the right music and if the cake is perfect. Will it rain or not? But the biggest headache is whether you are making the right decision or not.
That’s why I was stuck in the dressing room with Sofia, the bride, while the church waited patiently. I bet by then the choir had sung almost every song in the hymnal.
“Sofia, do you want to go out,” I called my best friend that Sunday morning. “You made everyone wait,” I added, almost raising my voice.
I could hear him sobbing. I could feel the tears welling up in her eyes, running down her cheeks to her dress.
“I don’t know if I can do that, Meg,” she replied. “Am I making the right choice? I’m scared,” she replied. Sofia and I have been best friends for over ten years.
She was a bridesmaid at my wedding, and it was a privilege when she insisted that I be the bridesmaid at her wedding. My husband, Kyle, was the best man.
I calmed her down. We were already an hour late for the wedding and I was getting many calls from her nervous parents, the deacon and my husband.
“What’s going on, little girl? You’re just scared, and it’s normal to have premarital jitters. It’s only natural for you to feel anxious, as this is an important milestone in your life.
” I have already been there. Come out and talk to me, okay,” I added.
“Okay…in a few moments,” I heard him inhale and exhale before walking out and smiling.
An undated photo of a wedding venue in a Kenyan church
“Let’s go. We’re late,” she added. I was puzzled. Wasn’t that her crying a few minutes ago?
“Did you sleep last night?” I asked him as we boarded the black 2022 Mercedes-Benz C-Class, which immediately sped away.
“Meg, I’m tired. I just want to get this confession off my chest,” she replied, asking the driver to turn up the volume, but not to his crescendo. A soothing wedding air.
I looked out the window and tried to think about confession. Did the groom, Steven, cheat? Was she pregnant?
But Sofia looked at me with a smile. Maybe she read my mind.
“Don’t worry, Meg. I’m fine,” she assured me.
The convoy slipped into the old cathedral in Nairobi. Sofia was an aspiring musician and her management had invited some media to cover the wedding for the gossip columns.
I touched up the makeup on her face before joining the procession of flower girls into the church as the choir sang a rendition of Ed Sheeran Perfect.
The dinghies, popping balloons, congratulations and applause were deafening. But wasn’t that a gross shock lurking in the shadows? I had alerted my husband, Kyle, but we weren’t all aware of Sofia’s confession.
I held my breath throughout the sermon until the vows. “If anyone wishes to oppose this union, please come or remain silent forever,” the deacon summoned.
“No one. All right. Steven, do you take this lovely woman as your wife? To love and cherish? In sickness and in health? Till death do you part, or Christ come for his church?” asked the deacon .
“Yes, I do,” Steven replied, to the delight of the congregation.
“You may now recite your vows,” the deacon guided him.
“Sofia. Every day I love you more. You are the shining light in my life that guides me to walk right. With grace and the trust you have bestowed on me, I place this ring on your finger to show you my love for you,” Steve promised.
Sofia breathed hard, smiled, closed her eyes and the priest intervened.
“I have a confession to make,” she added. It was there. The church was silent except for a few whispers here and there. Sofia’s parents stood up.
A bride in a white wedding dress attends a photo shoot right after her vows (file image)
“Today morning I delayed because I didn’t know if it was the right choice in my life. I’m afraid of failing. I’m afraid of being a mother. Steve, I feel like you’re too good for me because you’re humble, so straightforward, and I’ve never found fault with you,” she continued.
“I was praying for the strength and the energy to come here because I love you so much, and I just want to feel that grace. I’m sorry I kept you waiting,” she said.
Was she going to do it or not? It was the question running through everyone’s mind.
“I keep wondering why you helped me through the difficult phases of my life, from finance my business to support my siblings at school…I feel like you’ve been through a lot with me, and today morning I wanted to get away and give you some peace.
I stood up and passed him a tissue as the audience was in shock. Steve almost let go of her hand. He was troubled by the sudden changes.
“But I’m marrying you because I know I’m in good hands, and yes, I am,” she replied. You could feel the weight falling on everyone’s shoulders. There was a sigh of relief.
“I now pronounce you husband and wife. You can now kiss the bride,” the deacon added.
While waiting for the group to settle down, I asked Sofia why she couldn’t confide in me.
“Meg, Steve really had a hard time finance our business. So I had the impression of being demanding with this marriage. I don’t even know what to do with EMS after marriage,” she said.
“But you shouldn’t worry too much on your best day. You have the honeymoon, honey,” I told her.
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Steve, the groom, then cut us short.
“Do you want to have this dance with me?” he asked him.
Sofia gave me a wink and got up to dance.
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