Kourtney Kardashian and Travis Barker have been raising eyebrows since the very first day “Kravis” was born.

But not inviting their own children to their wedding is the post that broke the internet’s back. People around the world are outraged that the couple chose to officially marry only one best man each – and not one of their children.

Now, while it wasn’t their “big wedding”, which they plan to have in Italy later this year surrounded by all their family, friends AND children, the public reaction begs the question… is- what is it good to have a childless marriage?

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Safe to say that if you’re going to have a wedding, you’re going to be ruffling some feathers. You can never please everyone, so be prepared to put on your big pants and be tenacious.

First of all, it really depends on the type of day YOU want. Do you want a serene, uninterrupted adults-only day? Want the kids of your immediate family there, but not the offspring of distant cousins ​​and co-workers? Do you dream of a magical day, that all generations experience together?

There are a number of things to consider when choosing (or not) to have children at your wedding. Will you have a separate room for kids with movies, games, snacks? Are you going to hire child care for the day or have someone sacrifice their day to watch the kids? Prefer to let the kids be entertained and run aimlessly around the room? We all know the scene. With the thought of their parents that someone else is watching them, when really no one is watching them.

The subject of children will undoubtedly pique some of your guests. But the choice is ultimately yours. And you must be firm in your decision.

When it comes to bigger weddings, you can’t really not invite your own kids (unless they really don’t like the events and would much rather stay home having fun with a co-parent. or a family member, rather than standing up all day. Again, it’s your personal choice).

But really, what’s the harm in not inviting your children to a very small and simple wedding ceremony? Especially if you don’t marry their other parent. Maybe your kids are worried about how a wedding will change their life back home? Maybe you just want to make a solid commitment to your partner without disrupting daily life at home.

There are many things to consider when it comes to children at your wedding:

Budget

The cost of more than 10 children’s meals and gift bags at your wedding breakfast will undoubtedly increase the cast. Would you rather spend those extra few hundred pounds on flowers, a harpist, or put them behind the bar?

Unpredictability

Children run everywhere. They scream and they cry. Children can wreak havoc in a playground, so you can only imagine the scenes they could create at your wedding. If you imagine your wedding with a super refined atmosphere, it makes sense to reserve it for adults. That said, I’ve seen adults create a bad atmosphere at a wedding, deciding who the kids can come to or who walked the bride down the aisle. I guess the daytime vibe really depends on your tribe.

Will your guests enjoy the day?

Will your dearest loved ones be able to relax, drink and dance at your wedding if they need to change diapers or take grumpy kids to bed? Your guests can have more fun if they have a day off from family life and feel comfortable letting loose. Safe knowing the kids are snuggled up in the bed at home and have a hotel room with a late check out.

Place

Some locations have limited capacity and you may just prefer to invite more friends. Other locations may not allow children or may not be accessible to all ages.

Destination Weddings

Flights and hotels will undoubtedly be cheaper in the long run. And let’s face it, being invited to a destination wedding is one of the only chances a parent can relax on vacation without their kids, ever! It is obvious.

Can you invite some children and not others?

Sure! It’s your day and you can absolutely be picky about the kids you invite over. But be warned. People love to twirl their panties about someone else’s wedding, and inviting some kids over and not others is guaranteed to cause a stir. It can even cause a mood in the daytime.

Communication is key

Be specific with who is invited to the wedding on the invitations. Then add a clear but polite disclaimer, such as “Please note that this is an adults-only wedding” or “Due to space constraints, we can only accommodate the children of the wedding party. marriage. We hope the advance notice means you are still able to attend.” And then stick to your guns! Once you’re persuaded to bend the rules for someone, word will spread quickly.

Committing to your partner for life doesn’t have to be like the Glastonbury Festival. It just has to be the way you want it to be. And with all the drama that big weddings cause, I’m not surprised people slip away and do it alone… with or without their children.

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