Groom criticized for asking his brother to delay his honeymoon because of his marriage
A man asking his brother to postpone his COVID-delayed honeymoon booked for the day after his wedding has come under fire online.
Reddittor u/Many_Cryptographer_3 shared his situation on the site’s Am I The A**hole forum, where he revealed that he and his wife got married at the start of the pandemic and therefore had to delay their honeymoon.
Her brother, who got engaged amid COVID, announced he was getting married this year, and u/Many_Cryptographer_3 saw the opportunity to kill two birds with one stone.
“Due to the nature of my job, I can only take time off twice a year. I’m a doctor and I work most weekends and I’m quite exhausted, so we decided to book a honeymoon relaxing abroad in a resort.
“Due to the vacation issue, I booked the trip for the day after my brother’s wedding, which was my last available vacation for the year,” he wrote.
Weddings are notorious for being expensive, and often that’s without the cost of the honeymoon.
Honeymooners on a special vacation traditionally cost an average of $4,800, according to wedding website Brides.com, citing figures from last year.
This can reach between $5,000 and $7,500 for trips abroad, such as popular destinations in Mexico and the Caribbean.
While further afield, such as Europe or Asia, it can cost up to $6,000 to $25,000.
The website explained, “The cost of the average honeymoon varies widely depending on the following factors: seasonality, location, and amenities.”
While it’s unclear where the couple are based, the site added: “Location also plays a big factor in terms of cost. Americans honeymooning in the United States will end up paying far less than couples choosing to cross the Atlantic to celebrate their nuptials. “
The doctor confirmed that his wife had advised him to check the dates with his family first, and he spoke to his brother and his parents, who saw no problem with the trip.
But as the wedding approached, the family didn’t seem to remember which doctor was leading the honeymoon ahead of them.
He continued, “Two months before the wedding and the trip, I was on the phone with my parents. I mentioned booking the trip and they asked what trip? I told them the honeymoon I’m leaving after. the wedding.
“Then they said, are you going on a trip right after the wedding? That was weird because I know I told them about it. The next day I get a call from my brother asking if I’ve booked a honeymoon. honey the next day.his wedding.I told him yes and he seemed quite upset.
“He said wouldn’t that distract from their special day and that I couldn’t do it another time. I told him we talked about it and he said he was fine, and I don’t have any other time of year when that’s possible.” He said he remembered the conversation now, but only really processed it now.
Now feeling stuck on what he should do, he turned to the internet for advice, admitting: “I don’t think anyone here is a bad person, it’s just frustrating that we took the time to talk to people but it’s obvious they weren’t really paying attention.”
He still felt “guilty” about the honeymoon, but clarified: “People don’t seem to understand that working in a hospital is very different from an office job. I can’t just take time off whenever I want and the environment is incredibly stressful. .”
The table below, provided by Statista, shows the barriers to vacation.
In the comments, the doctor explained that after a year of savings, he and his wife have been able to afford a “fancier honeymoon” and that this is their first trip abroad.
Referring to his brother, he added: “Essentially they’re not going on a big honeymoon right away because of the cost of the wedding. That’s why they might be mad at us…
“I think it’s better if I don’t mention the travel during the wedding if someone asks. They asked me if I could move the trip, so maybe they feel like I steal their lightning?”
The post, which can be read here, has garnered more than 11,000 upvotes and comments since it was posted on Wednesday, as people felt he had no reason to apologize.
MochaUnicorn369 said: “This is BS – why can’t a wedding happen one day and then people go back to their own lives??”
RandomNick42 thought, “The law is stunning. How on earth would completely independent travel distract from anything?”
EvilFinch wrote: “I guess they’re miffed that OP is flying away on his honeymoon while they stay home. Maybe they’re hoping that if they mope around enough he’ll give them their honeymoon as a gift. NTA.”
IzBlueGirl said, “Most guests leave the day after a wedding anyway.”
Newsweek contacted u/Many_Cryptographer_3 for comment.